YOUR RESULT
TOLERATING PLEASURE
If you checked MOSTLY answers from this section, it’s likely true that you’re disconnected from the pleasurable, joyful aspects of your vision and the work you do, because the stressful, difficult, or challenging aspects of it have been more present and heavy.
There is no greater energy drain than being misaligned, especially with your work -- because so much of your day and time are spent thinking and feeling about your work. It might be weighing on you to continue pouring energy into people, places, and work that isn't life-giving for you. Maybe your messaging is outdated, or your offers aren't updated--but it feels more heavy and scary than it does exciting and joyful.
The difficulty tolerating feelings of pleasure is a signal that your nervous system is protecting you from something it perceives as a threat--whether that's sensation, love, connection, or honoring your authentic truth + desires.
Typically when our systems are dysregulated, one coping mechanism we can activate (unconsciously) is turning down the volume of sensation to numb. This mechanism may turn down and repress difficult feelings, but it also disconnects us from the good.
Remember: there is only ONE feeling dial. Turning down the hard also leads to turning down the good.
Things To Focus On:
Self-Investigation: become aware of the narratives, stories, and past experiences that are keeping you from fully owning the desires of your heart. Create boundaries and take action as needed to move toward your hearts' desires and feelings of positivity and pleasure.
Ask:Â what's the most empowering view of my situation I could possibly have? How would I act if I was acting from that viewpoint/perspective?
Microdose gratitude, joy, and pleasurable experiences in your body. Slowly "microdose" the "upward spiral" positive emotions + experiences, like gratitude, humor, contentment, hope, and pleasure. Those emotional states need to be practiced for them to feel normal, safe, and regular in your system again.
Create a "joy, pleasure, safety" playlist, and move your body to it intuitively for 20 minutes.
Here's a playlist from a past client of mine called "Safe"Â
You will likely feel some resistance to even asking that question if you perceive there to be some consequences of taking ownership of that (fear of disappointing others or yourself, failure, being seen, the unknown)
Reflect on and remember your absolute badassery. Remembering who you are is a process of actually acknowleding everything that's good, exemplary, unique, and special about yourself. Our brains have a negativity bias, so if you haven't done this in a long time--it's likely you've fallen into an amnesia of forgetting who the fuck you are.
Challenge A: ask one person to reflect back what they see your greatest gifts are in the world.
Challenge B: write a list of everything you've accomplished and overcome in the last 5 years.
Challenge C: invest in a Human Design, Astrology, or intuitive reading to receive reflections about yourself.
Prioritize doing things that make you feel powerful, even if they’re for free.
If you're actively growing, learning, and processing--it may be true that you haven't felt powerful, capable, and strong in a while.
Feeling CAPABLE makes you feel CONFIDENT. Do something you know you're great at. Create a free training or opportunity for you to coach people, even if you don't make money. Experiencing yourself as capable and showing up as the version of yourself you know you CAN be is an important way to feel the pleasure and aliveness of your human experience.
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